Coaches: It’s Critical to Developing Effective Listening Skills
The “Art” of listening objectively and effectively
It’s so easy to be distracted when someone else is talking. We all suffer from information overload in this future-shocked world, and with the best will in the world, it is not always easy to give total attention to someone speaking when that person tends to wander, or to get off track.
Nevertheless, your coach needs to focus their attention on you
And you need to focus your attention on your coach as well
Let’s look at a few ideas on how to make this process a bit easier:
- Stop what you are doing, and put what you are doing to one side.
- Try and free your mind from what you are currently doing, and switch attention to the needs and preoccupations of the other person.
- Try and put preoccupations out of your mind so that you can focus all of your attention on what is being said. If necessary, note down your thoughts at this stage of your thinking, and ask the person to wait while you briefly note those thoughts.
- Rethink the situation. Is there anything you may be missing?
- Observe closely and attentively. Non-verbal clues can be very significant
Future Thinking follows Present Listening
When Coach and Client are listening to each other in the preset the opportunities will abound for Future Thinking. Future Thinking is the realm where you and your coach can design highly successful future outcomes and the actions required to reach them.
Some of the questions a coach might ask to promote Future Thinking
- How will things be different if you’re successful?
- What does success look like?
- If you’ve been successful and you look around, what will you see happening?
- What needs to change for success to happen?
- What do you need to do differently or better?
Goals and Actions
By having goals and actions agreed to with specific timing parameters individual and team growth will accelerate. You should expect some stretching and a little pain as your coach will challenge you to move beyond your comfort zone.
In this partnership you will both experience the exhilaration of victory but only you, the client, should and will take the credit.